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Arranged Seating: Yes or No?

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It doesn't matter if you're an introvert or a seasoned partygoer, seating arrangements can make any guest break out in hives. Judith Newman tells it like it is in this New York Times piece on the topic: "Whether the event is at the White House or your own house, arranged seating is an occasion for major tea-leaf reading. Who’s sitting where? Why? What’s the agenda?"

Maybe it makes sense for the Obamas -- as Newman points out, when everyone wants to sit next to you, pairing off with your wife puts strategic chair space to waste. But for more quotidien parties? I vote against the custom, unless you're planning a wedding with dozens of guests (and maybe even then!). At a casual dinner party, even a big one, it can feel old-fashioned. I like to assume that the couples I invite to dinner are polite enough not to talk only to each other, and it seems a little rude to sequester a quiet friend in a corner while bringing a loud one to the center.

Have you ever agonized over a seating arrangement? Or have you ever spent a boring (or amazing!) evening as a result of someone else's plan?

I’m Sitting Here, but Why? from the New York Times

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over 2 years ago blanka.n

OK. This article annoyed me so I didn't bother to read it. If I'm having a dinner party for 6 - come on we all know each other. If I'm having a sit down for 14 (can't remember the last time) I will spend a little time making sure the people who are next to one another like talking to each other etc. and yes the place cards come out BUT it's necessary to separate couples but is it a rule?

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over 2 years ago nzle

(I will admit that i make an exception for surreptitiously setting up friends who haven't met.)