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Kareem H.
May 29, 2018
People like you deserve 10 slaps on the face! Im sick and tired of constantly dealing with people like you, especially since in my culture not being a food pusher is considered rude, I really have a hard time liking people like you, and if someone is rude to you for being pushy I would be so happy and I would have no sympathy for you whatsoever.
kasia S.
October 4, 2023
I think you missed the whole point of this article. My face looked as if someone poured a bottle of vinegar over it when reading your cringe comment.
Michelle P.
February 1, 2018
Amazing. Every single line of this article, I thought to myself: Yup, that's me. I even sent it to my boyfriend and he confirmed.
My favorite line: "And how dare he eat a bagel at work instead of cutting off a slice".
I always give my boyfriend a hard time whenever he buys bread from the store.
My favorite line: "And how dare he eat a bagel at work instead of cutting off a slice".
I always give my boyfriend a hard time whenever he buys bread from the store.
Eunice C.
February 10, 2017
Love this so much, Sarah! It's all about the shared experience for me as well and being able to compare notes/opinions on what you just ate.
Corrine
February 10, 2017
This. You absolutely nailed that feeling I get when leftovers sit in the fridge day after day while I watch my husband cook up a mess of pasta for dinner and spoon store-bought sauce over the top.
Lauren M.
February 10, 2017
Oh my goodness! This is me. You have articulated the deep, shameful places of my own personal "food pushing". Thanks for the words spoken in such bare truth. I also do what your boyfriend does and share the first bite for the sake of experiencing something together with someone, but I mainly push all of my cookery or leftovers on others. Now that I'm aware I'm responsible for my actions, too, right? We'll see, it's a work in progress!
Rachel
February 10, 2017
Interesting concept. The food pushing for me is always the "I made this, you'll love it, and if you don't try it, you insult my ancestors" type. But I've never pushed the leftovers that much. they'll get eaten and if they don't they weren't that good in the first place.
Pascale P.
February 10, 2017
Hmmmm... this makes me think. Perhaps I need to be more aware of my food pushing.
amandainmd
February 9, 2017
It took me a really, really long time to accept that my husband loves me, appreciates my cooking and baking, but really wants a carvel cake for his birthday. Actually, I am still struggling with it but I buy him the cake without saying a word.
Kaite
February 9, 2017
Woah. I can totally relate to this. My husband pushes food on me that I normally wouldn't try. I'll say no, and he'll persist in his pushing until I finally give in. Most times I end up enjoying what I've tried and he gets great satisfaction out of it. Had it not been for him my love for pesce crudo would have never seen the light of day.
I, too, am a food pusher. I'm constantly thinking about my next meal, and I make my husband the guinea pig whether he likes it or not. I also remind him of leftovers in the fridge as I don't like to eat them after more than two days of it being left over. I'm always saying "Honey, there is salad in the fridge that you need to eat" as I've already eaten my limit. He'll reply, "I'll have it tomorrow night." The next day I'll remind him about it and he'll reply with the same comment. It's a cycle.
I, too, am a food pusher. I'm constantly thinking about my next meal, and I make my husband the guinea pig whether he likes it or not. I also remind him of leftovers in the fridge as I don't like to eat them after more than two days of it being left over. I'm always saying "Honey, there is salad in the fridge that you need to eat" as I've already eaten my limit. He'll reply, "I'll have it tomorrow night." The next day I'll remind him about it and he'll reply with the same comment. It's a cycle.
Whiteantlers
February 9, 2017
I lost a friendship over "food pushing." I had been ill for several months and the former friend would not honor the fact that I was not too ill to work every day, shop (or get groceries delivered) and prepare meals. I was getting daily offers of her coming over with food and at first I was polite and said I was fine, making simple things, conserving my energy and thanked her for thinking of me. I added that I was touched, but there was no need for care or a delivery of rations. I assured her I would let her know if my situation changed. The food pushing got less friendly and more relentless, then devolved into her crying, pouting and making accusations that I was "distancing myself" from her by not accepting food. WTF?! I have a chronic auto-immune disorder and at no time during this debacle was I ever too weak or sick to shop, cook or eat.
Everyone shows love (and perceives being loved) in different ways. That needs to be respected and a firm, polite 'no thanks' means just that. Nothing more or nothing less. I sometimes think that people who push food on others secretly want to be taken care of more deeply or more attentively by the person on whom they are foisting the annoying behavior. Nevertheless-NO MEANS NO!
Everyone shows love (and perceives being loved) in different ways. That needs to be respected and a firm, polite 'no thanks' means just that. Nothing more or nothing less. I sometimes think that people who push food on others secretly want to be taken care of more deeply or more attentively by the person on whom they are foisting the annoying behavior. Nevertheless-NO MEANS NO!
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