Ego vs. Etiquette: How Not To Be Offended By Someone Who Puts Ketchup on EVERYTHING?
Now that Thanksgiving is over, there's an etiquette question I've been meaning to ask. I love to cook, and do so for myself and my partner on a regular basis. For the most part, he is an enthusiastic and appreciative fan of my cooking, yet I still have one pet peeve: often without even tasting first, he immediately puts sriracha hot sauce on everything (I said ketchup in the title as I imagine this may be the more common problem for others). Even when I plead with him to at least try it first, he'll do so, but then still insist on adding it, explaining, "I like it spicy." On the one hand, it's his food and I want to be respectful of his desire and right to season it the way he wants, but on the other hand, without being too precious about it, I do think that the meal a cook offers is (at its best) like a perfectly composed picture - you've worked to make all the flavors right, each in its right place and complementing one another. When I see the sriracha sauce going on, I feel like my effort was wasted and its intentions ignored. Put another way, it's kind of like a gift you're giving - and isn't it bad manners for the recipient to immediately start trying to rearrange the teeth in the gift horse's mouth? Should I just get over myself, swallow my cooking ego, and let him enjoy it the way he wants it? Or is there some form of etiquette that says, short of a bit of salt and pepper here and there, this kind of flavor adjustment is rude?
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He, like those who insist we taste (or heaven forbid) eat the food as it is cooked sans condiment, made himself into a minor ubermensch of Steak. The cook (chef) is not a Food L0RD. A cook/chef is a servant, and only a servant's heart makes a good person.
People who love to cook, put great effort into making a meal pleasing. Offering it to their spouse or guest is a gesture of love and to add to it BEFORE tasting it is rude. It's not being a "food nazi" to want something you created to be appreciated. It's a blatant disregard to the person cooking the food.
Second, a person's palate is...personal. I love cooking and creating dishes, but stubbornly cling to Three Ketchup Shamefuls--I put it on eggs, mac-n-cheese, and, tragically, roast lamb! That last one kills me SO BAD. But I love it. Everyone has his/her Weird Food Thing. Let it go.
I get HIGHLY annoyed with food Nazis. What they are really saying is that they care infinitely more about their stupid pet peeves than they do about the enjoyment of others over what they eat. Some of these people need psychiatric help. I get so incensed over this arrogance and pettiness of the critics that I actually go out of my way to annoy them. I am from Chicago and have fond memories of the many times I made the ketchup haters cringe. These "people" need to be confronted with their stupidity and bias.
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