7 Life Lessons We Are Living By After Our February Nobody Cares Speaker Event

We laughed. We cried. And we definitely learned.

At our February Nobody Cares Speaker Event, guest author and psychologist Dr. Jody Carrington, PhD left us with a notebook full of wisdom—and maybe even a few new perspectives on life. From human connection and burnout to the Mufasa soundtrack (more on that in a moment) and neurobiology, the night was packed with insights that we just can’t keep to ourselves.

Jody was full of one-liners, and every word felt like a revelation. Here are some of our favorite moments from the night. Get ready to screenshot them all.

"Empathy is the antidote to burnout"

Jody repeated this one throughout the evening, and for good reason. In her experience working with children who have suffered trauma, she often hears people ask, “What’s wrong with this one?” Instead, she challenges us to ask, “What happened to this one?” That shift in perspective—leading with empathy—can change everything.

Burnout, she said, isn’t just about being overworked. It’s about being unseen. “You cannot do good work if you do not feel acknowledged.” And acknowledgement? That starts with empathy.

This is where Mufasa comes in. His attention to Sarabi's interests makes her feel seen and ultimately wins her over. The soundtrack then, of course, had to be discussed. I loved it, Erika did not.

"If the big people are okay, the little people are too"

Whether in the home, the office, or the classroom, leadership matters. When those in charge can regulate big emotions, the people they lead feel safer, too.

Jody often meets parents who are worried about their child’s anxiety or depression. Her first step: Have the parents schedule an appointment for themselves. “Am I the problem?” they ask. And while Jody reassures them with a “Noooo,” she also nods. Because while they may be a part of the problem, they are also a big part of the solution

“If they’re not okay, the people they serve don’t stand a chance,” she said.

"The body keeps score"

Your mind may try to convince you that you’ve moved past stress and trauma, but your body tells the real story. Jody reminds us that self-care (massages, meditation, journaling) won’t truly work if your body is still stuck in fight-or-flight mode. Healing isn’t just about what you do; it’s about how your body responds.

"You can’t address what you don’t acknowledge"

When asked how to create a better workplace culture, Jody didn’t hesitate: Start with acknowledgment. Before you can fix a problem, you have to name it. She calls it the "Name it to tame it" approach. Once you identify what’s happening, only then can you start creating real change.

"We are all just here to walk each other home"

This one isn’t originally Jody’s—it belongs to spiritual teacher Ram Dass—so she broke it down and said in her own words that life isn’t meant to be navigated alone. We’re wired for connection, and no amount of automation will ever replace human relationships. We need each other. Even if we only cross paths for a short time, we’re all here to guide, support, and lift each other up.

"What you promote, you permit"

A simple but powerful reminder: What we allow in our spaces, at work, at home, in our communities, sets the tone for what continues. If we want change, we have to be intentional about what we encourage and what we challenge.

"You can’t tell them, you have to show them"

No amount of words can convince people of something they don’t see in action. In leadership, culture, connection, it’s not about what you say. It’s about what you do.

Which one of Jody’s insights resonated with you the most? Let’s keep the conversation going.