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Emily L.
May 9, 2016
I loved this! I can totally relate - my parents don't fully understand the internet -memes are baffling and take hours to explain
healthierkitchen
May 9, 2016
Stereotyping is not productive. Understanding is productive:
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lYdNjrUs4NM
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lYdNjrUs4NM
Ms. B.
May 9, 2016
While I also don’t believe that the author intended malice, the cumulative effect of all the eye-rolls directed at clueless Mom (and other older relatives) left me feeling quite alienated. Implicit in the piece was an “us” versus “them” mentality that seemed a bit jarring. Surely the “us” of Food52 is not characterized only by the young and tech-savvy? And seeing this paired with other Mother’s Day features? Ouch.
drbabs
May 9, 2016
As one of the "older" active members of Food52, this article broke my heart a little. While I'm sure you each wrote your piece with great love and affection (Who of us hasn't said or written funny things that our parents say? I certainly have--and in the headnotes to recipes on this very site.), the cumulative effect of these has a "you're not welcome here" vibe. I'm positive that this was not your intention. I'm certain that you all love your parents and grandparents very much. But just know that for those of us who are older, maybe a little clueless (I can't figure out the #notrecipes app to save my life), and can identify with your parents, it stings a little.
AntoniaJames
May 9, 2016
Thank you, drbabs. You speak for so many of us in this thoughtful comment. (I find increasingly of late that many editorial pieces here that "you're not welcome here" vibe. I attribute that to the target demographic -- the big spenders supporting e-commerce and ad revenues -- which quite obviously is not us. This, however, takes ageism to a new level.) ;o)
Greenstuff
May 9, 2016
There's an irony in that many of the new features seem a little moronic (or at least uninformed) to me--can it be that all generations think that others are idiots? Oh, doh.
Rhonda35
May 8, 2016
HILARIOUS! You are a sensitive, positive-minded bunch and, since I share a mother with one of you, I know you ran these stories by your respective relatives before posting them. This piece is light-hearted and loving; thank you for the giggle!
healthierkitchen
May 9, 2016
Rhonda- I get that your mother and others might have vetted these but despite that, and despite the best of intentions, this is really discriminatory. I don't think there is another legally protected class about whom you could write a piece like this without getting flak. Think about it, would you write a piece about the "cute" but clueless way any protected class - women, people of color, people with disabilities, etc. - behave in the kitchen? You wouldn't and we wouldn't want to read it. As I said below, these stories are individually lighthearted, but as an article compiling them, they just seem disrespectful and take away from the tributes you have paid in the past to great older woman cooks. When we talk about children in the kitchen we treat them with more respect (or at least I hope we do) as our goal is to encourage growth and interest.
healthierkitchen
May 8, 2016
this piece is, perhaps unintentionally, insulting and demeaning to all your lovely mothers and the many women (and men) of the same generation who have loved and supported Food52 for years. Many of us are quite computer and media savvy. As a mother, I will add that what I write to my kids in private texts and emails is not in any way what or how I would write for public consumption. I imagine your relatives are the same way. Amanda and Merrill, I really hope you are reading this because as much as I love that food52 has been successful and as much as I love that my own kids find it fun and relevant, I find this sort of piece inappropriate on a site that started with a whole lot of bloggers and food lovers who are of, as the French say, "un certain age" and on whose recipes and love this site grew. I hope you will reconsider such pieces in the future, unless your intent really is to drive out users older than Millennials. While individually each of these bits about your parents seems cute, cumulatively, they paint a broad swath of agism. Please consider a quick check of your age privilege.
AntoniaJames
May 9, 2016
I'm so glad you spoke up on this, HK. Apart from its obvious, if perhaps unintended (one might even say "thoughtless") unkindness, this piece is also in such poor taste. That's all I'm going to say. ;o)
Cristina S.
May 7, 2016
This is hilarious. I'd had my blog for three years, my Dad telling me all the time that he "read" it--before I realized that he was just seeing the header picture and first paragraph, and never clicking "read more." Apparently he thought it took me a REALLY long to take one photo, write one paragraph, and the actual recipe was invisible?
aargersi
May 6, 2016
1) Me! I know what email marketing is!
2) I can't even really explain to myself what I do, never mind my mom (and honestly, her eyes glaze over when I say the word database) (and why wouldn't they?) (everyone's do!). But there is email marketing in the mix
2) I can't even really explain to myself what I do, never mind my mom (and honestly, her eyes glaze over when I say the word database) (and why wouldn't they?) (everyone's do!). But there is email marketing in the mix
Taste O.
May 6, 2016
My mom kept telling me it was great that I didn't work and stayed at home with my kid. I ran (and still run) a business out of my home.
Rachel
May 6, 2016
I didn't think it was condescending at all. Someday, our kids are going to be trying to explain what they do, working in jobs that don't even exist today, and we're going to be the ones that are scratching our heads ("that's an actual job that you get paid money to do???"). I struggle with the same problem in telling my grandparents, aunts, uncles etc. what I do. These brought some laughs and hopes that you are all celebrating mother's day with your lovely moms and grandmoms. BTW, where does the nickname Grandma Tubby come from? It's really cute.
Jennifer
May 6, 2016
I don't think it was meant to be condescending. I found it rather funny since I also have a job that doesn't translate into the world that our parents and grandparents grew up with. Sometimes it is nice to know that we are all struggling with redefinition on how we do things...and there are lots of moments that make us laugh.
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