Is it OK to leave a tip jar out for the bartender or is that tacky?

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  • October 21, 2011
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Niknud
Niknud October 21, 2011

My view (and it's only mine, mind you) is that it's tacky to ask people to contribute money when you invite them to be a guest at your house. If a hired bartender is required, you should take care of their payment and include tip. I guess I'm thinking that most guests will bring a hostess present and that should be the extent of their obligations.

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wssmom
wssmom October 21, 2011

I second Niknud. If you are having a party at home with a bartender, a tip jar is tacky. As the host, I would add a gratuity onto his fee for the evening.

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Robin O'D
Robin O'D October 21, 2011

I also agree that a tip jar for your bartender is tacky.

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sdebrango
sdebrango October 21, 2011

I agree with everyone, tacky!

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hardlikearmour
hardlikearmour October 21, 2011

TACKY!

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boulangere
boulangere October 21, 2011

Since no one would (hopefully) ask guests to contribute to a caterer's gratuity, the bartender's should also be the responsibility of the host-hostess.

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amysarah
amysarah October 21, 2011

At a private party? Absolutely not. Way tacky.

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drbabs
drbabs October 21, 2011

Another vote for tacky.

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AntoniaJames
AntoniaJames October 21, 2011

Utterly unthinkable. "Tacky" is too kind. Inexcusably poor taste is more like it. ;o)

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hardlikearmour
hardlikearmour October 21, 2011

I ? you, AJ! You do not mince words!

SKK
SKK October 21, 2011

AJ, you have such a way with words and I concur. (A tip jar for the hostess maybe?)

Helen's All Night Diner
Helen's All Night Diner October 21, 2011

If I went to a party and saw a tip jar, I don't think I would go back! I've actually never seen one at a private party. If I hired a caterer or bartender, I would expect to pay a tip myself. To do otherwise is just plain rude (and tacky) I invited my guests to my home, I'm not charging them admission!

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boulangere
boulangere October 21, 2011

Great analogy, HAND.

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cookinginvictoria
cookinginvictoria October 22, 2011

Agree with what everyone else has said -- a tip jar at a party in a private home is unbelievably rude and tacky. The host/hostess should cover the gratuity of the bartender or caterer, if it was necessary to hire one.

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healthierkitchen
healthierkitchen October 22, 2011

I agree with the sage advice above. Definitely a no-no! You wouldn't have a cash bar at a party in your home so why introduce the need for guests to have cash at all?

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Bevi
Bevi October 22, 2011

A thousand times NO! And I say this as a former bartender!

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SKK
SKK December 20, 2011

I had a large dinner for family last week and had a Bell canning jar on the kitchen counter. I noticed my daughter had put on it a label that said "Tip Jar for Cook". And I got tips - some money but mostly 'tips on the stock market' 'tips on how to clean the kitchen' 'tips on how to find a date (I am long time divorced'. It will now be a regular institution at all our family gatherings.

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drbabs
drbabs December 20, 2011

Hilarious! I love this!

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