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Is it OK to leave a tip jar out for the bartender or is that tacky?

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asked over 6 years ago

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Niknud
Niknud

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added over 6 years ago

My view (and it's only mine, mind you) is that it's tacky to ask people to contribute money when you invite them to be a guest at your house. If a hired bartender is required, you should take care of their payment and include tip. I guess I'm thinking that most guests will bring a hostess present and that should be the extent of their obligations.

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wssmom
added over 6 years ago

I second Niknud. If you are having a party at home with a bartender, a tip jar is tacky. As the host, I would add a gratuity onto his fee for the evening.

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Robin O'D
added over 6 years ago

I also agree that a tip jar for your bartender is tacky.

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sdebrango
sdebrango

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added over 6 years ago

I agree with everyone, tacky!

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hardlikearmour
hardlikearmour

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added over 6 years ago

TACKY!

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boulangere
boulangere

Cynthia is a trusted source on Bread/Baking.

added over 6 years ago

Since no one would (hopefully) ask guests to contribute to a caterer's gratuity, the bartender's should also be the responsibility of the host-hostess.

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amysarah
amysarah

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added over 6 years ago

At a private party? Absolutely not. Way tacky.

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drbabs
drbabs

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added over 6 years ago

Another vote for tacky.

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Helen's All Night Diner
added over 6 years ago

If I went to a party and saw a tip jar, I don't think I would go back! I've actually never seen one at a private party. If I hired a caterer or bartender, I would expect to pay a tip myself. To do otherwise is just plain rude (and tacky) I invited my guests to my home, I'm not charging them admission!

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boulangere
boulangere

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added over 6 years ago

Great analogy, HAND.

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cookinginvictoria
added over 6 years ago

Agree with what everyone else has said -- a tip jar at a party in a private home is unbelievably rude and tacky. The host/hostess should cover the gratuity of the bartender or caterer, if it was necessary to hire one.

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healthierkitchen
added over 6 years ago

I agree with the sage advice above. Definitely a no-no! You wouldn't have a cash bar at a party in your home so why introduce the need for guests to have cash at all?

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Bevi
added over 6 years ago

A thousand times NO! And I say this as a former bartender!

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SKK
SKK
added over 6 years ago

I had a large dinner for family last week and had a Bell canning jar on the kitchen counter. I noticed my daughter had put on it a label that said "Tip Jar for Cook". And I got tips - some money but mostly 'tips on the stock market' 'tips on how to clean the kitchen' 'tips on how to find a date (I am long time divorced'. It will now be a regular institution at all our family gatherings.

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drbabs
drbabs

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added over 6 years ago

Hilarious! I love this!

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