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The Christmas Grilled Cheese That Showed Me Home in America
My search for a new kind of family, after leaving Korea.
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Angela
December 9, 2018
What a beautiful story James!!! How lucky you are to have not just one but two families that love and care about you. Its lovely to get to know your back story and I’m thankful you shared it with us. Also, you are one brave mister! 13 and left home? Moved to a new country?!?! Wowwww #fighter
James P.
December 10, 2018
Hi Angela! I feel incredibly lucky to have two lovely families indeed! Honestly, I didn't know what I signed up for when I decided to leave my family when I was 13. If I knew that it would be hard, I probably wouldn't have left, so I am glad that I didn't think too much about a whole American life when I was young!
Alice K.
December 9, 2018
I thought you were going to write that they had grilled cheese sandwiches with kimchi! That is a great combination! So glad you finally met a family who made you feel welcome. It must be so hard to be a stranger in a strange land.
James P.
December 10, 2018
Hi Alice! I mean kimchi grilled cheese is my weeknight go-to meals! I am glad that I have my American family too :)
Mindy W.
December 9, 2018
What a fantastic story! My children also loved tomato soup and grilled cheese growing up; and over time our friends came to expect a gift of tomato soup on Christmas Eve from our family. 25 years later I still have friends and neighbors I deliver soup to on the 24th.
FYI, I know Susie Naumann and your description of her warm smile was perfect. She truly is a lovely lady.
FYI, I know Susie Naumann and your description of her warm smile was perfect. She truly is a lovely lady.
James P.
December 9, 2018
Hi Mindy! Ah, Isn't Princess just the greatest? I love her more than anything!
I am so happy to hear that grilled cheese with tomato soup is a holiday tradition to many families besides mine!
I am so happy to hear that grilled cheese with tomato soup is a holiday tradition to many families besides mine!
RobinT
December 8, 2018
Love this story so much. Made me feel happy and warm inside. This is what the holidays are about - finding family and home. So glad you found both with the wonderful Naumanns.
James P.
December 9, 2018
Hi Robin! Thank you! Totally agree with you about holiday spirits; they are all about family and feeling like you are a part of something. I am so happy that I have become a part of the Naumann's, and I will never feel alone thanks to them!
Heather H.
December 8, 2018
As much as I love making fancy grilled cheeses... nothing really beats american cheese on wheat bread. I make my tomato soup with san marzano tomatoes, chicken broth, red onion, lots of oregano, heavy cream and some goat cheese.
But on christmas eve, we usually have bierocks with homemade bread dough and homemade potato soup. Yum yum!
But on christmas eve, we usually have bierocks with homemade bread dough and homemade potato soup. Yum yum!
James P.
December 9, 2018
Heather! I agree with you! I feel like fancy grilled cheese with "fancy" cheese doesn't have that nostalgic factor to me. American cheese on bread ALL THE WAY!
Adding some goat cheese to the tomato soup sounds really great! Gotta give that a try! Hope you eat your feelings with bread dough and homemade potato soup on Christmas Eve this year :)
Adding some goat cheese to the tomato soup sounds really great! Gotta give that a try! Hope you eat your feelings with bread dough and homemade potato soup on Christmas Eve this year :)
HalfPint
December 7, 2018
This reminds me of the Mexican exchange student in my high school who was so quiet and reserved. I really felt for him because he obviously wasn't an extrovert and being in a strange country when he didn't seem to have a strong grasp of the language. Now I wish I had made more of an effort for him, but then I was so shy that my own peeps in school thought that I was stuck up. I hope that Hector was able to find his "family", but props to anyone who has the courage to leave home and find something similar abroad.
James P.
December 9, 2018
Thanks for sharing that story! I am sure Hector really appreciated you. It doesn't take a lot to make people like me and Hector feel less alone in a strange country; just a few kind words will do it :)
Suzy G.
December 6, 2018
Love you, James! How fun to relive it all through your writing!
James P.
December 7, 2018
Love you so much! It's crazy that it happened almost 6 years ago! So happy that you fed me grilled cheese then :D
Mindy W.
December 9, 2018
Suzy, I read this with tears in my eyes. What an awesome tribute to your family.
Angela R.
December 6, 2018
Great story! I'd be interested in knowing that tomato soup recipe. I love San Marzano tomatoes! It's what I use to make my own spaghetti sauce.
Suzy G.
December 6, 2018
So simple... basically the tomatoes, some butter, basil simmered together and a bit of heavy cream added at the finish and warmed through. Comfort.
Courtney R.
December 6, 2018
This was beautiful and makes me feel less silly for enjoying my holiday traditions
James P.
December 7, 2018
There is nothing silly about enjoying holiday traditions! They are YOURS and celebrate YOUR traditions no matter what!
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